It has actually become necessary in our time to rebut the theory that every firm and serious friendship is really homosexual.
-C.S. Lewis
We live in an age when men are judged, at least in American culture, according to their sexual orientation. Overriding any racial, religious, ethnic, or even professional label is the question: Are you straight or gay?
For many men a straight vs. gay label does not begin to accurately describe who they really are. Maybe you are one of these men. You might be single or happily married, yet you find that you have a longing for deeper connection amongst members of your own gender. You may experience emotional and physical attraction toward other men to be sure, but are not after sex. How do you interpret these feelings, especially if you also have an attraction to women at least at some level?
If you are like most men, it is mind-boggling torture for you as you struggle to make sense of your feelings - feelings that go against the norm for your social, ethnic, or religious culture. You disdain the gay label because you know you do not necessarily fit within the “gay pride” world, nor do you condone its efforts. At the same time what other choice do you have? You begin to question if indeed you really might be same-sex attracted.
As a result of our own personal experiences and our interactions over the past seven years with countless numbers of men who have come through In His Fullness, we have concluded that attraction runs along a male-female continuum and the degree to which a man is attracted to his own gender as well as the opposite gender varies from person to person. We maintain that attractions can be emotional, physical, or sexual in nature. However, they must be viewed as being distinct from sexual lust as well as distinct from behaviors in response to specific kinds of attraction. We believe that while you have control over your thoughts and behaviors, control over your feelings is a more complex matter.
Our goal is to assist you in coming to a deeper understanding of yourself and your gender identity. If you would like to learn more about our philosophy and approach, we invite you to purchase a paper we have prepared (Click the Buy Now button below) and use as the basis for our